February 19, 2007

Keeping it Real

Posted in Keeping it Read at 4:45 am by relief1

Verily your children are a test for you.

Yes, Allah speaks the truth and my children are a test for me.

I am striving to do what I can to keep my children on the siratul mustaqeen. I have a 6 month old girl, 4 year old girl, 6 year old girl, 7 year old boy, and 9 year old girl. 

Everyone dotes on the baby, but the rest fight amongst each other like cats and dogs. I’m trying to do what I can to raise them islamically although I am overwhelmed with my responsibilities right now. My family live hundreds of miles away and my only friend is my husband, so al hamdulilaah for him.

I feel alone although my dad sent me the card I initially posted stating that ‘You Are Not Alone’. Loneliness stems from not being understood, not being able to express how you are feeling or have those feeling acknowledged or validating, so while I am not alone on a desert island I can be lonely at times. I don’t like being lonely or isolated so I keep searching for a better place, although hubby says that wherever we go it’s always the same thing.  In a way he is right as I am a firm believer in the fact that you never miss what you have until its gone, gone, gone.

I miss living in Maryland/Virgnina area and believe that was the best muslim community by far at the time that I was living there. If I go back it won’t be the same as many of the people have moved, married, made hijrah and the like but still I remininensce as I remember what was and hope for what could be.  People change though and yet they still remain the same.


  1. ummadam said,

    I have always been a lonely person. Strangely, I have always been very popular and found that when I was surrounded by people I was the lonliess.

    I too loved the NOVA area, but shudder to think about it now. Most of the people there are miserable. It is no longer the same…I think I will always be lonely whereever I am.

  2. ummbinat said,

    hey, umm adam . . . I am not miserable. If you guys ever come back come and visit us. Bring the kids, have some chicken wings, drink some juice, share some knowledge and just chill.

    Open invite!

  3. Relief said,

    Salamu alaykum,

    I can’t imagine that everyone in NOVA is miserable. Although the upheaval with the FBI visiting everyone probably put a spanner in the works. The last time I visited I saw a few sisters and they were happy. I remember one sister remarking that they don’t get together as much as they used to but still we get together here on EID and even then its pretty weak.

  4. Jamila said,

    Assalamu Alaikoum,
    Wow, I’m overwhelmed with just three kids! It’s so hard not having extended family.May Allah make it easier for all of us in this situation.

  5. Relief said,

    Salamu alaykum Jamila

    Jazakallah khairun dropping by all my blogs. Blogger won’t let me add a new blog for the last 2 weeks. I wrote them but I don’t know whats going on. I can relate to the feeling of being overwhelmed. Maybe when our kids are all in their late teens things will run like clockwork.

    I had this sister friend in London where I lived who had 6 kids and she managed them mashallah! At the time I had 3 kids and when we went out with all the kids in tow she was always helping me as I was the overwhelmed one while she whose kids were like 16, 15, 11, 9, 7, and 3. She would instruct one of her kids to help me with mine; She had all girls and a boy and was divorced so it is possible to manage all this and as they get older they can assume more responsibilities.

  6. jamilalighthouse said,

    Salams Relief, I didn’t realize it was you! Stupid me!

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